The Art of Creating Successful Teamwork In Everyday Life

It might not be you, but it could be someone you know, that has been part of a work team or a sports team that was a disaster – because of the lack of good communication. So what does that have to do with a winning team, or a successful work team? Everything.

Every team works better when everyone is feeling good about their contribution and the relationships they have with the other team members. A team that has good rapport*, has a good vibe. That good vibe translates into good team spirit and energy. How to stay in rapport with all team members is the secret. Avoiding breaking rapport with others is the key.

*rap·port /ra?pôr/ (noun)

A close and harmonious relationship in which the people or groups concerned understand each other’s feelings or ideas and communicate well

Consider this… It could take a few minutes to a couple hours to build rapport wit someone. It could take a minute to break rapport. It could take forever to repair it. So, learning what breaks rapport is the key so you can create healthy, high-performance, good-vibe work and sports teams.

Build and Maintain Good Connection With Others

Because there are 4 main communication/learning styles, it increases the probability that the person you are communicating with is likely a different style than yours – this is often the cause of broken rapport. The 4 styles are: Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic (feelers), and Digital (thinkers).

Each communication style has its characteristic unique to that style, which means the other 3 styles have less interest in some of those characteristics. For example, the Visual style communicator likes to see things when being taught and the auditory style only needs to hear when being taught. So, conflict will occur when the visual team member is only getting instructions in an auditory way. Frustration occurs, rapport gets broken and now this team player’s negativity is affecting team results.

Here is a summary of the 4 styles and what words each style uses. To build best rapport with someone else, listen for words they commonly use (see table below) and use those words when communicating back to them. Be a better communicator by being more well-rounded by talking to each style. In a team environment, use words from all styles so to be sure that all 4 styles are getting your message.

Commonly Used Words

Visual Style

Look, Appear, View, Big Picture, See, Imagine

Auditory Style

Hear, Sounds Like, Talk, Tell Me, Resonate, Ideas

Kinesthetic Style

Feel, Touch, Comfortable, Grasp, Get a Handle, Fit, Connect

Digital Style

Think, Thoughts, Order, Sequence, Makes Sense

Use this quick guide above to help you become familiar with commonly used words used by each style. When you understand the style of others, you can adjust the words you use so you can stay in rapport with whom you are talking to.

If your communication is working well with someone, you don’t need to do anything to fix it (this is usually the case where that person is the same style as yours, hence, the good connection).

When you feel or think that your communication with someone is not going well, then its time for you to fix it. Listen to the commonly used words (as above) they use, and match their words and you will quickly see and experience instant, posi­­­­­tive results.

Here is another guide you can you use to understand more about others’ style.

How they may end an email or telephone conversation.

Visual Style

See you later

Auditory Style

Thanks for the chat. Chat later

Kinesthetic Style

Nice to connect. Hugs. Take care

Digital Style

Bye (or just hang up, when ending phone conversation)

Harmonious teams create dynamic team results. Practice today, listening to other’s commutation style and become a well-balanced communicator.

To learn what your most dominant and less dominate communication style is, complete the online assessment. Law of Connection

He is the author of the best selling book, Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t.

In 2003, after delivering over 700 hours of ‘Teleclasses’, and hundreds of one on one Law of Attraction coaching sessions, Michael combined his Law of Attraction teaching experience with his knowledge of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming).The end result was a self-published book, Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t. Michael’s book is now published in 28 languages around the world. His Second book: Law of Connection is in 21 countries.

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